Orgasm Manual: Get Better, Longer & Stronger Orgasms!

Want to reach an orgasm every time? Here, sex experts reveal sex techniques that work with the physiology of female orgasm to build up, extend and heighten your peaks of pleasure. Check out this compilation of bedroom-tested strategies that'll send you over the brink of ecstasy!

Get him to go down on you

Here's why: Most women need direct stimulation to their clitoris in order to have an orgasm. In fact, almost half of women don't come during intercourse. For most women, "it’s cunnilingus that does the trick," reveals sex therapist Ian Kerner, Ph.D., author of She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman.

But he also points out that communication is key, so try showing your guy how you like your clitoris to be stimulated, how hard and in what direction. This way, he can use that information later when giving you a tongue bath or using his fingers – just the way you love it.

Stop being so self-conscious in bed

"Recent studies show that in order for a woman to achieve orgasm, the part of her brain associated with stress, emotion, and anxiety has to shut down," says Kerner.

It actually makes sense: When your mind isn't busy worrying about how you look or smell, you can then concentrate on the sensual pleasure and fully surrender to the moment.

Besides, consider your insecurities unfounded because (1) you obviously are hot to get your man all excited and (2) studies show that women have a keener sense of smell – which is why your scents likely seem stronger and more unpleasant to you than they do to him. Just relax and enjoy every delicious moment!

Squeeze and release your PC muscles

During sex, rhythmically clench and unclench your pubococcygeus (PC) muscles – the ones you use to stop urine in mid-flow. "He'll fill you up even more when you give him a love squeeze, which is a great sensation for you," says Kerner. "And since an orgasm is a series of muscular contractions, this exercise can actually trigger yours – making your climax that much more consuming."

Clench your butt and legs when you're approaching climax

The reason: By clenching your buttocks and leg muscles, you're basically initiating the rhythmic contractions of the PC muscles which run from the back to the front of the pelvic girdle. In other words, you're actually mimicking and kick-starting an orgasm.

Pay attention to your breathing

"Orgasms are powered by blood and oxygen, " explains Lou Paget, certified sex educator and author of The Great Lover Playbook, so taking slow, deep breaths can contribute to the intensity of sexual arousal.

To prolong the peak waves of pleasure and intensify sensations, try inhaling deeply and holding your breath just before you orgasm, then exhaling when climax occurs. If well-timed, the experience is earth-shaking. Be careful not to go blue in the face though – holding your breath for too long could also make you miss an orgasm.